Somethings You Should maybe avoid Saying to Depressed People

Asalamalakium warahmahtulahi wabarakatoe… May the peace, mercy and blessings of god be upon you and your nearest and dearest.

Welcome the my blog……Sometimes life is not what you expect. With Multitudes of events happening every day.  From  something small like stubbing your toe to the happenings when you switch on in world news. We share world news too world views covering all media outlets and social media feeds .But somewhere in between is a person’s close to you giving birth to stigmas still very much present for mental illness. 

I’m fatz and I have a mental illness 

Untreated in somber phases The world is a scarey place. At some point in your adult life from (my experience in people around me and my own personal battle) that a form of depression will be present whether you feel it yourself

A person can be extremely sensitive and vulnerable. Sometimes one wrong word can make their difficult state of mind explode. This article is from the heart of those having overcome torment depression start by telling yourself, don’t talk to people this way!

FATZ recommends listening to this advice and try being sensitive to your nearest and dearest in order to help them overcome this difficult illness.

  • ’Come on, there are problems worse than you have’

 the fact someone has more problems

 won’t make mine disappear.

Better say: ’Oh, I’m so sorry you feel bad. What can I do to help you?’.

  • ’Just believe in yourself,    tomorrow it’ll be better’

Okay maybe you right but depression isn’t a thing that vanishes overnight! Unfortunately….

Say it this way: ’Deal with it step by step and I’ll be there to help you.’

  • ’Life is unfair’

DON’T.,How can that help me feel better? You can worsen a persons situation by saying it  so, and it depreciates their suffering.

Say: ’I’m so, so sorry you have to overcome this. We’ll cope with it together.’

  • ’Just put up with it’

. A person with depression is ALREADY trying to put up with it. They do thier best. Every day. Giving such an advice is like saying they failed to do that.

Better say: ’You don’t have to cope with it alone. I’ll help you.’

  • ’Life goes on’

Well, yes, life’s going on. But when I hear this, I think that my depression doesn’t let me live.

Just tell them: ’Your life’s full of things worthy of living for. Let’s explore them together again.’

  • ’I know how you feel, I’ve had depression once’

People don’t cope with difficulties in the same way, and it’s time you understand that. Again, such a phrase depreciates my sufferings. Depression is NOT ’a bit’ more serious than bad mood or day.

Better so: ’I can’t even imagine what you’re going through, but I’ll do my best to understand you and

Lighten your load.’



  • ’Don’t you think you’re behaving like an 

egoist?’

What’s wrong with you? Most likely the depressed person is criticizing himself/herself every minute, so don’t add fuel to the fire. Remember: depression is not a choice. People don’t get there on their own.

I want to hear that: ’I miss you so much. What can I do to help you?’

  • ’Go have fun, have a drink, and forget about it.’

Are you kidding me? How many times do I have to repeat myself? Depression isn’t just a bad day. It’s like thousands of the worst days in a chain, and you can’t see a way to get out of it. No light at the end of the tunnel. At all.

Better this way: ’I’d like to spend more time with you. How about a cup of coffee and a heart-to-heart talk?’

  • ’gosh’ your miserable…
  • .

A depressed person tries every minute to cope with themselves, and tries to get out of this funk. The last thing they want to hear is that they annoy somebody.

Better say: ’I don’t like it when you’re so sad. Let’s fix that somehow.’

’Why so upset?’

Stop it. Depression’s not always caused by a bad accident. Sometimes it just happens. It doesn’t mean it’s not serious.

You should say: ’Sorry I don’t understand why you feel so bad. Don’t worry, I’m here.’

  • ’Stop feeling sorry for yourself’

I’m not going to listen to you anymore. Depression and ’feeling sorry for yourself’ are two hugely different things. But, they often go together 

Tell them: ’I see it’s hard for you. What can I do to help you?’

  • ’You need to start running’

When you’re depressed, it’s hard to start anything.

Better say: ’I need somebody to exercise with me. Let’s go together.’

  • ’You’re strong, you’ll cope with it’

Depression makes anyone weak and helpless.

Just say: ’Believe in yourself and that you’ll overcome it. You’re not alone, I’ll stand by you.’

And please, don’t forget that depression is a serious illness. If one of your loved ones suffers from it, make sure that he/she will consult a doctor, and stay with him/her in this difficult time.it maybe difficult to feel like 

 
Based on material from Buzzfeed 

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fatzinwonderland

mother of 2 ...revert to Islam studying psychology photography editing coding religion enjoy photography alot and time with my children. have nowadays more good days than bad .. but that is partly because I know that there is a problem I have gotten used to it and would definitely give help to people who don't have any idea that the reason they feel like they do because that they are unaware. I stand up for sisters and mental and financial abuse and the possibility of getting people out of the situation that I was in would love to study but after the break up if the father of my children and I no longer have the financial backing to follow my dream so since I converted I have had a love of learning on moments when I manage to find much-needed peace to be able to read up on world history islam psychology photography editing making videos . promotions and genral sporadic blogging

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